So today, five years, hundreds of injections, and thousands of dollars later, we find ourselves with new beautiful life plan that we couldn’t have dreamed up if we tried. Our family has always been our only goal how we got there made no difference to me. That moment set the tone for the next five years of our lives and continues to be the way we work. No blame, no tears, just a new path heading in the same direction to creating a family. We went to work on educating ourselves about the process and what needed to come next. When our doctor told us that we would never be able to conceive naturally, we took a moment to be mourn what we thought was our story, and realized we needed a new plan ASAP. That’s a bunch of miracles manifested in different ways. That’s not the definition of infertile to me. I had one cycle that was unsuccessful in between, and now our third child is finally with me-growing and thriving inside. I have felt lucky for every one of these last five years. So, I don’t really talk in public about feeling lucky to have had this journey. The only thing in which I feel slightly alone is that I know most people in my IVF shoes don’t get to feel this way. I don’t feel like we’ve sacrificed anything in this journey. My husband and I don’t consider ourselves to be an infertile couple, although that was technically our diagnosis in 2011. With all of you.įirst, you need to know that this is a story of pure gratitude. I’ve been open about this beautiful part of our lives the entire time, through each cycle, so here’s my chance to share and connect again. But, the more we talk, the less isolating this process becomes. Many wonder about this process, but are too afraid to ask for fear of upsetting. And lastly, there are you that don’t have a clue what this feels like. It’s a bond that is so valued in my heart. And then there’s the rest of you that I do not know at all, but we are linked in our IVF stories and journey.
If I wasn’t pregnant or lost the baby-I’d need you all even more. They have cared every step of the way and they deserve to know what they’ve been caring about. My answer? I have so many people surrounding me that care, truly care, about us. These are the things my caring, yet protective system of warriors has said to me over the past few weeks when I told them I would be blogging about this moment in our IVF journey. “Why would you be so public about this part of your life? Why would you tell people so early? What happens if you’re not pregnant? Aren’t you afraid of pity? What happens if you are? It’s nobody’s business. I just want to tell you that you’ve beat the odds.